I have a confession to make. I don’t really know what feminism means. I’ve tried in the past to “get it”. I really have. But it was so damn confusing and annoying I gave up. Is it equality with men? Is it anti-men? Is it the right to do whatever we want? Or the right to do what men do? Is it having to loudly and publicly oppose anything traditionally female, such as washing the dishes and folding the clothes?
Now I see that the internets are in an uproar that Kaley Cuoco doesn’t consider herself a feminist, and she likes feeling like a “housewife” and cooking her husband dinner 5 nights a week. Well, how dare she. She’s had to back track and apologise for her comments. Kaley single handedly turned the women’s rights campaign back 300 years. No, not really, but you’d think so judging by the reaction to her Red Book article.
There many things that bother me about this. In no particular order:
1. Who the hell likes to cook 5 nights a week? That in itself needs addressing.
2. If you say something, stand by it. Don’t let bullies back you in to a corner and rescind your view and opinion. I am actually more offended that she says she was “taken out of context” than I am that she said she’s not a feminist. Stand by your words!
3. So what if she – or any woman – likes to play the old fashioned role of housewife. SO WHAT? What business is it of yours?
4. Does being a bully help the cause?
5. The pioneers who paved the way for the women’s rights movement would be rolling in their graves. Could they ever have imagined that fighting for women’s rights to work, right to vote, would ever lead to this? Women fighting amongst each other.
I thought I’d do some research on the topic. And by research, I mean I Twitter-searched hashtag feminism. Some of what I read made sense, some of it made me a bit angry to be honest. Some if it I thought just fed into other issues, such as hatred and bigotry.
Well I have to say, I am not particularly a fan of that much intolerance and ignorance. And I’m not entirely sure that statement is helping the cause at all.
Why should any woman be looked down upon or criticised for enjoying or wanting to cook dinner and provide for her family? Including, heaven forbid, A MAN!
Does feminism assume every man is a dominant oppressor? Perhaps I don’t understand it because, as Cuoco said, I’ve never felt or been subject to inequality. My husband does at least half the household chores – and I don’t mean just the male ones either! I have always had female bosses. I am not saying that because I don’t see it, it doesn’t exist. I know it does. But I’m still confused about the whole movement.
I am all for women having the same opportunities as men. In every aspect of life. Except maybe standing up to pee – I think men have that right exclusively. So am I a feminist?
I think women should be treated with respect. But so too should men.
If a woman wants to stay home, and they can afford it, good on them. If men want to stay home, and they can afford it, good on them too.
I think women do some jobs better than men, and vice versa. I think the right person for a job should get that job, regardless of their gender. Does that make me a feminist?
I don’t like taking the rubbish out. Does that make me anti-feminist?
I have a problem with people assuming a woman can’t do the same job as a man because she’s a mum. Is that even feminist-related? Or is that mumism?
Feminism is a tricky, confusing topic. Although, this simple tweet seemed to make the most sense to me.
If that is feminism, then yes, I am a feminist. But I get the distinct impression it is much more complicated than that. But is that only because we make it so?
How about just once, instead of pointing fingers and judging others for how they live their life, we just worry about ourselves? So if Kaley likes to play housewife and cook for her man, let her. Without judgement.
Maybe I’ll just stick my head back in the sand, where it was quite happy before all this Kaley nonsense.
Are you a feminist? Are you against feminism?
Do you think we make it harder than it needs to be? Is my head just too far up my arse?