It’s been a while since I wrote you a letter. It’s not that I don’t think of it, it’s just that life seems to get in the way. I also kept hoping I’d have something really exciting to write to you about, like you becoming a big brother. But as close to that as I’m going to get, is that you’re going to have 2 new cousins in the next 5 months! A girl and a boy, which is very exciting! I can’t wait to see you with them.
The other exciting news is that we are about to go on a holiday to New Zealand. Chances are you won’t remember any of this holiday by the time you read these letters. There will be plenty of pictures to prove you were there, but I’m not sure what you’ll really remember.
You’re so grown up now, a real little boy! There is not one ounce of “baby” in you, but you will always be my baby. And you may be my only baby. We are coming to terms with that, even though the hardest part is feeling like I’ve failed you by not giving you a sibling. I suppose being an only child, you’ll know no different. I promise I’ll try my best not to smother you and not to baby you because you are an only child. I promise (myself) not to let you become a “spoiled brat”, but the fact is, as an only child you wil probably get more, do more, have more opportunities than you would if there was a sibling.
I hope that you will always be surrounded by family and friends and won’t feel lonely because you’re an only child. I hope that we will find the right balance of being a parent and a friend and that you’ll always feel like we will support you no matter what. I hope you will always feel like you can talk to us and that we won’t tell you what to do or say we told you so.
My greatest hope is just that you will be happy. Life can be tough, but it can also be amazing if you let it. If you always look for the positive, if you’re grateful for each glorious day that you’re given, if you choose happiness, and keep your mind and heart open, the world will be your oyster.
You may not have a brother or a sister, but you will always have your mum and dad and family who love you to pieces. I so love the little boy you have become. You make me laugh on a daily basis and I can’t wait to see what kind of a man you grow in to.
All my love,