This week for Deb’s 52 Weeks to Simplify Your Life challenge we are talking about marriage.
I’m not ashamed to admit that The Mechanic and I met online. I had just got out of a relationship, he was new to the area. I had intentions of going on a lot of first dates, not anticipating any second ones. As it turned out, in a city of 5 million+ people, covering a massive amount of land space, we lived in the same apartment complex, just two buildings away from each other. I often forget that piece of information. I suppose if you were someone who believed in fate/destiny, you’d think that was surely a good example of it.
Next year we’ll have been together 10 years (married for 7). I never thought I’d see the day I was with anyone for 1 year let alone 10. All my relationships seemed to fizzle after about 3-4 months. I even joked to The Mechanic early on, “If we’re still together in 6 months, I’ll probably marry you.”
One of the first things I loved about The Mechanic was that he loved his family. When we met, his sister was heavily pregnant with her second child & he carried around pics of her first child (his Goddaughter) in his wallet. As well as the rest of his family. I also loved that he came from a big family – 1 sister, 3 brothers, 5 of them in total.
Neither of us were particularly looking for anything serious. Just casual, occasional company to do things. For the first couple of months I wouldn’t even admit that we were “dating” even though we pretty much saw each other every day. The benefits of living in the same complex! After less than 6 months we moved in together – why pay 2 x the rent if we’re only ever in one apartment?
The next thing I loved about the mechanic was that he loved my cat, Colby, and Colby loved him. It takes a real man to admit he loves cats! They even looked after each other while I was out of town for work.
Here’s 8 other things I’ve since come to love about my husband:
* He is thoughtful. He puts a lot of effort into gifts, surprises, and doing things for me that he thinks I might like or appreciate. I’ve talked before about how he likes to surprise me and spoil me with great gifts here and here. Most recently, he surprised me with a Canon 5D Mark III to go with the new lens he got me! I almost fell off my chair.
* He is a really hard worker. He is perhaps one of the last of the generation of hard workers. He doesn’t expect to be paid well to sit around and do nothing. This is a wonderful characteristic to have, but can also be frustrating when he is really sick and won’t call out from work! I do love that he respects his boss and his job, though.
* He’s the most hands-on father I know. Our son is lucky to have him for a dad. He reads to Nick, takes him to the theme parks, takes him for ice cream, lets him help around the house and with his truck, there is nothing he wouldn’t do for that kid.
* He was willing to move to the other side of the world for me to be near my family so we could start our own family. I know how hard it is to move to the other side of the world knowing few, if any, people. That quite easily could have backfired on us but I’m lucky (and thankful) that he loves it here, even though I know at times it’s really hard for him to be so far from his family. We knew when we got married that one family or the other would always be missing out on having us close, and that’s not easy to live with. But we knew we had to do what was ultimately right for us. So far we don’t have one regret about moving here.
* He believes in me. He wouldn’t have bought me a Mark III if he didn’t! When I said I wanted to go back to school, he not only supported me, he encouraged me. He knew that I could handle it and wanted me to succeed. When I said I wanted to go to personal training and try to start running again, he bought me a Lorna Jane gift card and new running shoes. He has been my biggest supporter through this fitness/weight loss journey, and I don’t think I could have done it without him.
* He knows that I work long hours, too, and he picks up more than his fair share of household chores while I’m not at home. He cooks when I work late, he does the grocery shopping every week, he does laundry & dishes, too. He doesn’t see his job as more important than mine, or feel that I should still do all the household chores just because I’m the wife.
* He’s smart. He knows a lot about a lot. He’s handy, he can watch things and/or read things and remember them. He would have made a great doctor. How much different can it be memorizing body parts/illnesses and car parts/known issues? I really hope Nick got his daddy’s brains.
* He’s made mistakes, and so have I. But we’re still here. We find ways to get through the tough times so that we can enjoy the good times. He’s willing to fight for what we have, even when it feels like a losing battle, we always seem to come through it.
Linking up for week 41 of Deb’s 52 Weeks to Simplify Your Life challenge.