I think most people would agree that family is best taken in small doses. But when your family lives on the other side of the world, small doses is almost always impossible. It’s either all – they’re here and they’re with you 24/7 for an extended period of time – or nothing – you never get to see them. And neither way is really preferable.
My husband is American, and I am Australian, and we knew from the get go that one family or the other would always miss out on having us near by. It didn’t take long for us to realise that we couldn’t live our lives for our families, and base our decisions on what they wanted, but rather we had to do what was best for us. And when N came along, that was just reinforced.
Unfortunately, at this point in time, it means his family misses out on seeing us much. We’ve been in Australia almost 4 years, and in that time we have gone to the US once, his mum and a brother have come here, and this morning we said goodbye to his sister and her family, who have been with us for the last 3 weeks.
We’ve had seven people – 4 adults and 3 children – living in our unit. And while it has been nice to be able to spend time with them and do fun things like stay at a beach house, go to Sydney, go to Dreamworld and Currumbin Wildlife Sanctuary, it is also nice to have our unit back to ourselves.
I think the person who will be most upset they’ve gone home is N. He had such a great time with his big cousins who are 8 and almost 10. Of course there were times the 3 of them got on each others nerves, but there were also times they laughed, played, gave lots of hugs and kisses and got along great. I wish he could have that around more often.
Even though there were a lot of trying times in the last 3 weeks, we have lots of great memories, and most of them caught on camera. Here’s a few of N with his cousins, E and A.